As a human, relationships are important to fulfill are mental and psychological needs. Strong relationships with people make us feel complete and strong mentally as well as physically. We all need some strong bonds and close people to whom we can share our problems, emotions, and feelings. We need someone in life who can make us comfortable, understand our emotions, handle our mood swings, and share our happiness or tears. Unfortunately, transgender men or women are unable to seek this happiness, or luckily if they experience a relationship then the only fear is rejection. In our society, no one accepts transgender relationships. It often observed that if someone has transgender men or women as the partner, their parents never accept them. That’s why either they have to end their relationships or take steps against society.
According to some psychologists and researchers, people who are experiencing satisfying relationships are less depressed and have low levels of stress or anxiety. However, transgender people who are not having treatment regarding cross-sex hormone are on a high level of depressions, and stress level. Because transgender men and women face continuous discrimination and stigmas in life. They are facing poor health outcomes and negative self-analysis which results in extreme mental health issues. They are facing a lot of difficulties in interpersonal relationships. Many transgender people have reported that they are scared of introducing their transgender partners to their families because they won’t accept them. It also observed that transgenders are at a higher risk of sexual health and behavioral problems such as HIV.
Challenges for transgender people in relationships
Usually, the biggest fear of transgender men or women is to reveal their identity in front of society or their partners. There are three biggest challenges that transgender men and women have to face in their lives that includes sexual identity and uncertainty of relationships, Body transitioning decisions from male to female or female to male, revealing their identity publicly.
The most confusing and stressful period for transgender men and women is when they realize a different gender identity than their sexual appearance. This is the time when they need medical assistance but they not that lucky. HealthCare workers do not take any interest in assisting transgender medically. Either they don’t have enough knowledge about their issues or they refuse to help transgender people because of their identity. Due to some insecurities because of gender identity issues, uncertainty in relationships is common but challenging for transgender men and women. They always keep on doubting either their partners are loyal to them or not. Uncertainty in relationships makes them more stressed and depressed.
The other most challenging period is taking body transitioning decisions. There are three types of transitions which include, legal, medical, and social transition. Social transition is to come out with gender identity which is resected, loved, and known by the society. Medical transition is to choose surgical/hormonal transition treatments to have a desired physical appearance such as converting your body from male to female or from female to male (the body aligned with the persons’ gender identity). The third one is a legal transition which includes changing one’s identity documents that can represent a person’s current identity.
The other challenging situation for a transgender is to reveal his or her identity in public. As there are high chances that people will never accept them for who they are and also never respect them. The only thing is rejection, discrimination, and unbearable mocks from society. They know that people will look down upon them and shows respect, acceptance, or love to them especially their partners. It often happens that partners reject their trans partners after knowing their real gender identity or body transition. Only about 3 of 100 people dare to accept their transgender partners.
Problems during dating
Transgender people especially adolescents are at higher risk of facing relationship issues. Adolescence is a time when a person feels the need for love or intimate relationships. Also, this is a time of their emotional, social and physical growth. Transgender people has to pass many milestones to realize and face their gender identity issues. Transgender men and women also need romantic and intimate relationships which is itself a war for them. According to some researches, romantic and intimate relationships have a positive effect on the physical and mental health of a person but transgender is facing sexual abuse and physical violence. Due to this, they are at higher chances of HIV and other physical as well as mental health issues.
Transgender men and women have to find connections on dating sites. Most of them join transgender daring site her than other because they feel more comfortable, respected, and loved on transgender dating site. Also, they can easily reveal their identity on TS dating sites because people on these dating sites either belong to their community or people who respect their community.
Transphobia and violence
Transphobia is common among transgender relationships because the fear of rejection hinders them to reveal their identity to peers or their partner. Also, they feel hesitant to talk about their body transition. It happens many times that profiles or accounts of transgender people are blocked by authorities because of their desired names that are not identical to their legal documents. In many countries, transgender men and women are not allowed to change their legal documents after transitioning processes. Rejections and discrimination both are the biggest fear of transgender men or women.
All they need is to love and be loved by people like other normal people. Being transgender is not their fault. Also, violence, sexual abuse, physical abuse, or forceful relationships are reported among transgender. They don’t have enough hygiene and sex education due to which they are more exposed to hazardous diseases like HIV and mental health problems like depression, anxiety, stress, and suicidal tendencies. They also need quality of life and good medical attention. Connecting with their peer group and community can help to overcome their problems.